We had been talking about it, but I didn’t expect David to just blurt it out! It was very spontaneous, on a normal Monday night when we were just about to get ready for bed! Apparently, he couldn’t keep it in any longer!
We were living in Kent at the time and trying to find the kind of country/barn wedding we wanted was almost impossible on our budget. So we just moved over a couple of counties! We chose Bartholomew Barn because it was just stunning. It was in the middle of nowhere and there were beautiful autumn leaves on the trees.
The owner, Frances really swung it for us. She was so laid back and let us do whatever we liked. We didn’t have a huge budget but the flexibility of the venue meant we could decide what to spend it on without it looking like we’d cut corners.
When I first saw the barn I was speechless, which is rare for me. We had seen several others that day, which were all right. We felt like we had to always compromise on something. We drove out of the driveway of the barn on our way home and both said ‘I love it!’ so that was it really- sold.
I found my dress at a shop in Tunbridge Wells called Go Bridal. I had been researching dresses for months and months. I thought I wanted something really on trend and vintage with lots of lace and beading. In the end I got something really traditional, but still quite vintage and it was the first dress I tried on! I couldn’t believe it.
Martine at Go Bridal was amazing. She said it was all about personality and as soon as I put it on I could imagine David seeing me in it and his face. I felt like a bride! Both me and and my mum cried so I thought that was a good sign.
My accessories were simple: three small spray roses from my florist, my grandmother’s row of pearls and some earrings by Susie Warner that David bought me.
A petrol blue suit from Marks and Spencer.
I had two bridesmaids, my best friend Saira (Me and David got together at her wedding where I was a bridesmaid so I sought of owed her!) and one of my oldest college friends Otterlie. They organised a brilliant hen do with afternoon tea, bowling and karaoke and…. a singing Gorilla Elvis!
I got their dresses in the sale at Monsoon. I had seen them on the internet and loved the colour plus I wanted to buy them a dress to wear again. I don’t buy into many traditions so I bought them way before I’d even tried on any dresses.
David couldn’t decide on one best man so he chose two! Chris and Alex. David was Chris’s best man a couple of years ago and all three have known each other since school. They wore their own outfits but we bought them a purple tie to go with the bridesmaid’s dresses.
I didn’t really have a theme but I would say my day was a vintage, country wedding with a handmade feel.
This was really important to us. We didn’t want a church wedding and we didn’t want a civil ceremony where you just choose words from a package or a list. We went for a humanist ceremony instead as it reflected our values and outlook on life.
I walked down the aisle to Claire de Lune by Claude Debussey. We had two readings. My good friend Eleni read ‘He never leaves the seat up’ by Pam Ayres and David’s sister read ‘Wedding Song’ by Bob Dylan- which is a song but we just loved the words.
I had Angellike flowers, a local supplier. Angel was fantastic. I love flowers and they were really important to me. I wanted something different and went for vintage roses, scabiosa, hydrangea, astrantia, herbs and berries. I wanted a country garden look so we chose vintage teapots, vases and teacups for the table centres.
We sent out save the dates with Christmas cards. I designed the images on the cover of the stationery myself and wrote a poem for the back. Our very good friend is a printer so produced and designed all our wedding stationery as a wedding present. David Jenner at Esquire Print.
My Dad was adamant that I should have a classic car and arrive in style. It was a complete surprise when a gorgeous 1950s White rolls Royce turned up to take me to the barn.
The venue didn’t need decorating. The fireplace and tea lights everywhere set the tone perfectly.
David’s sister Joanna and her husband made our wedding cake! It was a red velvet sponge with three tiers, purple and lace ribbon and flowers from the florist to decorate. Not too complicated and it was scrummy! We keep joking that they should go into business.
We started off with a range of canapés. My fave was mini fish and chips in little silver buckets! For dinner we had bangers and mash and sticky toffee pudding for dessert. In the evening we had a simple cheese board to serve with the wedding cake. All catered for by David Tyrrell Hospitality.
David’s speech was my favourite part of the whole day. It was so well written and heartfelt. Loads of people cried, including me. It had everything a good speech should have- a few laughs, a few memories and some personal words that only I knew the real significance of. I am so proud of him. And, it was the only part of the whole wedding that I had no control over whatsoever- go figure!
We used a local DJ company who were really good. They took note of all our requests and judged the vibe of the room really well. Loads of people were dancing -including my dad!
Our first dance was to ‘What A difference A Day Makes’ by Jamie Cullum. On the way home from the wedding we met at three years ago, this song randomly came on David’s iPod and he just thought ‘how true.’ So it’s been our song ever since- even if it is a bit long to dance to in front of everyone!
All images courtesy of Nicola Feltham Photography ©